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    Woman finds son she gave up for adoption 36 years ago on Facebook

    Liverpool courier Pat Corlett logged into Facebook one day to find a message from a stranger waiting for her.

    Chris Haworth, 36, wrote "Hi my name is Chris and I was born on 22nd June 1975. You may not want to reply to this ..."

    The last time Pat had seen Chris — known then as David — was when he was six days old and she was giving him up for adoption.

    "It was like a bomb going off, but a nice bomb," Pat, 54, said of the unexpected contact.

    Chris told his birth mother that he enjoyed a happy childhood with his adoptive family, and now works as a coach driver. He kept David as his middle name.

    Pat had long wondered what happened to the little boy she gave up when she was just 18, but was hesitant to search for him.

    "I always said I'd never trace him, that it might be too disruptive for him or upsetting, but I often wondered whether he would try to find me," Pat told The Daily Mail.

    In 1975, Pat was working away from home at a guest house. She discovered she was pregnant shortly after breaking up with her boyfriend. Alone and overwhelmed, she decided she wanted her son to have a better upbringing than she had.

    Pat never knew her father and wanted her son to have two parents. So when Chris was six days old, she handed him over to adoption authorities.

    Pat went on to marry Bob, her husband of 33 years. When they struggled with fertility issues, Pat couldn't help but think of the son she no longer knew.

    "It was especially painful, of course, because of the baby I had given up," Pat said. "I thought about him every day, especially as we were trying so hard to have children. In the end we started to look into adoption."

    Bob and Pat eventually had two sons: Andrew, now 18, and Michael, who died in 2003 at the age of 7 from Burkett's lymphoma.

    Shortly following Michael's death, Andrew asked his mother if he could have another brother.

    She told him the truth about Chris.

    Now Chris and Andrew are getting along like brothers.

    "Chris coming back in our lives is like the rounding off of a story," Pat said. "He can never replace Michael, of course, but to have him with us is a real happy ending."

    (Photo credit: AFP)

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    261 comments

    • Smoofe  •  10 months ago
      Ok so Facebook is finnally used for something good! I'm still not signing up! "You know how I know your gay? Your on Facebook!"
    • nat  •  11 months ago
      Beautiful ending
      • ProudMom 11 months ago
        or it could be looked at as a beautiful beginning ... how wonderful that they found eachother
      • Deb 11 months ago
        excellent storey glad everything worked out for the birth mom and her son
    • jarad  •  11 months ago
      Finally some good news!
    • ducks  •  11 months ago
      I connected with my birth family on FB as well. I now have 6 half-siblings. I was lucky enough to meet 3 of them..and so far things are good. Sadly my birth mom died several years ago & the birth dad never knew she was pregnant with me..long story there. Anyway, nice to hear folks are having some happy endings with their life stories..good luck all.
    • A Yahoo! User  •  11 months ago
      This happened to me last Christmas... My little brother found me on Facebook. He was never a part of my life but I often wondered where he was & how he was. I was 17 when he was born. 27 years later he finds me on Facebook. It was one of the happiest days of my life. =)
      • hamburgersoup 11 months ago
        Joy to you on your brotherly love.
      • shaham 11 months ago
        Agree!
      • denise f 11 months ago
        aww so nice. i met my birth parents in 2000 before facebook.i was lucky enough to be raised with my twin brother. we have 1 full blooded older sister, 1 younger half sister and 3 younger half brothers(only met 2 of them)
    • First L  •  11 months ago
      I too, had found my son , after years of searching, he was given up at birth, in 1974,I live in Canada, and I found him in Florida, 9 years ago, we have an awesome relationship, he has 2 beautiful children, I spend time with his family every year, its a dream come true! I never gave up looking for him, and as it turned out he had been searching for me!
      • A Yahoo! User 11 months ago
        Well-done! It's always nice to hear about people finding each other when they're both looking. My husband's sibling cousins were both adopted from separate women. One of the cousins found his birth mother and they, too, have a great relationship. The other one isn't interested in finding her birth mother. As someone who has never given up a child, I couldn't imagine how that feels...and to find your baby all grown up -- must mean so much to you!
      • demigoogle! 11 months ago
        Glad to hear, First L! I'm so happy for you both!
      • Tim Horton 11 months ago
        What kind of a parent throws away their children?
    • ..oksoo.  •  11 months ago
      I have yet to be contacted by my birth mother. Who knows someday but dont blame them it was hard for them to give us up too. In most cases they gave us up for a good reason. Regardless it hurt them too. Nice to see happy endings can happen.
      • immigrationlady 11 months ago
        You can contact her too .... you might want to read the story I wrote about my eldest son. If you live in Ontario, it's quite easy to contact biological parents and if you do live in Ontario and are willing to take this step, I'd be happy to help you.
      • Terrie 11 months ago
        Also, you can do this very easily in BC.
      • RRP 11 months ago
        Oksoo why dont you try looking for them instead of waiting in hopes they will look for you?
    • A Yahoo! User  •  11 months ago
      Wow ! These are the stories we want to hear. I am so glad for all of them!
    • tigger_01  •  11 months ago
      This happened to me one year ago. I put my daughter up for adoption 29 years ago and she had sent me a message on Faceook. The first words...i think you might be my birth mom. I dropped to the floor. Congratulations to you and your child. I wish you the very best.
    • immigrationlady  •  11 months ago
      I'm an adoptive mother of two sons. One found his birth mom last year and it was a very rewarding experience for him. I never felt I owned him and actually encouraged him to reach out to her to know his roots. She didn't give him up voluntarily, a parent of hers signed the official documents without her knowing and the hospital, aided by a relative of her parents, tried to convince her she never gave birth. She asked repeatedly the day he was born to see him with a promise she would the next day but was told the next day he wasn't there. She was a minor and could have gone to court to reclaim him but was discouraged at every step and longed to be reunited with him. Hired private detectives without success. Finally hired another one and the same day he called her. She thought he was a representative from the firm she had just agreed to hire and was totally overwhelmed when he told her who he was. He met his family the next day and looks amazingly like them all even though his birth mother's husband isn't his biological father. They have a beautiful relationship but he continues to prove to us that we are his parents and he'll never forget it.

      Our other son met his birth mom last summer. They had one visit and received the medical information he required. Has chosen on his own, without encouragement or discouragement from us to not contact her again. I feel sorry for her and would like him to see her again but it has to be his choice. He is a parent of one and I would like her to share in that joy but as I said, it's his choice and no one else's.
    • A Yahoo! User  •  11 months ago
      Q:
      I don't think that searching for birth-parents implies something is missing...it's about knowing your roots. For some people, that's a HUGE thing, especially if there are medical concerns.
    • Mysterycheez  •  11 months ago
      What a wonderful story! It brought tears to my eyes. :)
    • gypsidi  •  11 months ago
      Very nice story, blessings to you all..Not all reunions have a nice ending. I was also given up for adoption at 5 days old. Searched and found my birth mother when I was almost 30 and found out i was not the first born, but had 2 older sisters and one 10 years younger. The reunion went fine, we were all swooning throught the honeymoon phase but when the dust settled, my birth mother was torn between her adult kids that already knew her but not me, and me, a stranger. So.. we lost contact not long after and my 'sisters' convinced mom that she was better off without me in her life after all..tried to contact her on facebook two years ago and she never answered my friends request. I was married, settled, religious and had 3 kids at the time when I met them..too bad, she is missing out on some terrific grandchildren that want to get to know her. Sometimes it can hurt to be rejected twice by a birth mother. C'est la vie.
    • fay  •  11 months ago
      I adopted my son, he was 5 days old, we loved him the moment we saw him, he alwise knew he was adopted and would ask only about his mother and why she gave him up. On his 19th birthday we started looking for her, in three week we found her, it was wonderful, he now is 29 and has two family's.
    • MAUREEN  •  11 months ago
      Beautiful story, I am happy for all of you.
    • ♥Bettsy♥  •  11 months ago
      Now there is one selfless mother. Timing is everything.
    • Jim  •  11 months ago
      Nice!!!!
    • Emmah  •  11 months ago
      nice !!!!
    • Patricia F  •  11 months ago
      Wonderful!
    • Michelle  •  11 months ago
      sweet story! Everything happens for a reason.
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