The letter was in response to a photoset she put together for a forty-something mother.
“She came to me, looked me straight in the eyes, and said ‘I want you to photoshop all of my cellulite, all my angry red stretch marks, ALL of my fat, and all of my wrinkles… just make it all go away.’” Haltom shared on Facebook.
Like any good photographer would do, Haltom obliged to her customer’s wishes to make her look “perfect,” smoothing away all the cracks and crevices.
After the wife gifted the photoset to her husband for Christmas, Haltom received an email from the husband explaining his issues with the photos.
The husband is well aware of his wife’s intentions of “spicing-up” the relationship, and appreciates the gestures, but goes on to explain why it just doesn’t seem like his wife in the photoshopped images:
“These pictures…while they are beautiful and you are clearly a very talented photographer….they are not my wife. You made every one of her “flaws” disappear…and while I’m sure this is exactly what she asked you to do, it took away everything that makes up our life…”
The husband continues to shed light on the history of his loving relationship:
“When you took away her stretch marks, you took away the documentation of my children. When you took away her wrinkles, you took away over two decades of our laughter, and our worries. When you took away her cellulite, you took away her love of baking and all the goodies we have eaten over the years. I am not telling you all of this to make you feel horrible, you’re just doing your job and I get that…”
The husband ends the letter thanking Haltom for helping him appreciate the true beauty of his wife.
“Seeing these images made me realize that I honestly do not tell my wife enough how much I LOVE her and adore her just as she is. She hears it so seldom, that she actually thought these photoshopped images are what I wanted and needed her to look like. I have to do better, and for the rest of my days I am going to celebrate her in all her imperfectness. Thanks for the reminder.”
“I cried like a baby with guilt for at least 6 months after whenever I read it,” said Haltom on Facebook, “I encourage you to embrace YOU just as you are!”