Heidi Klum's split from husband Seal was one of the most shocking breakups of 2012, but don't worry, because she insists that it's really not that bad.
"People say, 'Oh, God, how devastating to go through a divorce,'" Klum says in the the new issue of Marie Claire magazine. "Did I wish for this to happen to my family? No. But everyone is healthy; we're moving on with our lives. If someone got [very sick], God forbid, that would be a real problem. It's not what I wanted – it's not what anyone wanted – but it's not a real problem."
The 39-year-old and her singer hubby of more than six years, who were once so in love they renewed their vows every year on their anniversary, announced their split in January 2012. Since September, Klum's been open about the fact that she's in love with her bodyguard of four years, Martin Kirsten, although she doesn't plan to marry him or anyone else. Ever.
"I don't think so. No. No," insists Klum, who was married to stylist Ric Pipino from 1997 to 2002 before Seal. "I wanted to keep the memory of our wedding alive every year, and that's why I thought it would be fun to get married over and over. But now I don't think it is that important. I'm not angry about anything, but I don't think I will. Maybe if I'm with someone for 15 or 20 years, and we do it in our old age as a fun thing to do .... But I don't have the urgency anymore."
Klum is equally confident in what she does want out of a relationship. "I don't like to feel like the dominant person," the mom of four reveals. "I like to have a strong man by my side. The most important thing is to be free and real. You should never fake something – and I don't mean an orgasm. You should be kind and sometimes do things that other people want, but you have to be you."
She's especially adamant that a partner be honest about their needs in the bedroom. "Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while," she says. "It's good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm."
And although the "Project Runway" star is gorgeous as ever, she claims she's not interested in dating a drastically younger man. "I can understand why a woman finds a young man attractive, because the truth is that when men get older, their shape changes," notes Klum, whose show returns to Lifetime this month. "Younger men train more, and when the clothes come off, it is nice to look at a sexy, ripped body. But I am realistic. I'm turning 40 next year; I don't think I could deal with waking up next to a 25-year-old."
Read the full interview with Klum in the February issue of Marie Claire, on newsstands January 15.