Kirsten Dunst opens up about motherhood: 'I remember feeling really free after having my son'

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Kirsten Dunst opens up about motherhood, mental health and marrying Jesse Plemons. (Photo: Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
Kirsten Dunst opens up about motherhood, mental health and marrying Jesse Plemons. (Photo: Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)

Kirsten Dunst is embracing the chaos of being a working mother. In fact, the actress and mom of two says motherhood has helped her career. 

"I remember feeling really free after having my [first] son,” Dunst told the Sunday Times. “I think as a performer you put yourself out there more. You put yourself on the line because you have nothing to lose. It doesn’t really matter. And to show everything of yourself is a brave thing and a beautiful thing.”

Dunst, who appears in Jane Campion’s upcoming film The Power of the Dog, has two sons — James, 6 months, and Ennis, three— with fiancé Jesse Plemons. While Dunst said she "would marry him tomorrow," it wasn't exactly a case of love at first sight when the duo met.

“I didn’t think love right away," the 39-year-old said of working with Plemons on Fargo. "Although one of my best friends told me that I’d said to her, after about two weeks of knowing him, ‘I will know him for the rest of my life.’ There was an immediate soul connection."

But with busy filming careers and two young children, the couple are holding off on their nuptials. 

“We want a proper wedding, we just haven’t had the time. And I wanted to have fun at my wedding and not pay for everyone else to celebrate while I am pregnant and waddling down the aisle," said Dunst, who shared that she and Plemons are "very similar just in our beings."

But those hectic schedules have led to plenty of chaos in their lives. Speaking candidly, Dunst shared that she stopped breastfeeding James after three months so she could participate in press for The Power of the Dog.

“I mean, I already have nice-size breasts, so can you imagine them filled with milk? I wouldn’t be able to get dressed; I lived in a robe," said Dunst. "But then when you stop, your hormones… you feel so bad.”

The star also opened up about seeking treatment for depression in her 20s. 

“I feel like most people around 27, the s*** hits the fan," said Dunst. "Whatever is working in your brain, you can’t live like that any more mentally. I feel like I was angry. You don’t know that you are repressing all this anger; it wasn’t a conscious thing.”

While she wants to maintain her privacy "about such a personal thing," she also recognizes how "it is important to share too."

"All I’ll say is that medication is a great thing and can really help you come out of something. I was afraid to take something and so I sat in it for too long," she noted. "I would recommend getting help when you need it.”

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