Mothers from around the UK have opened up about their heart-breaking stories of child loss as part of a new campaign and exhibition which aims to offer more support to grieving parents and encourages people to talk more openly and honestly about grief and child loss.
Jointly funded by The National Lottery Community Fund, the largest funder of community activity in the UK, and Illumina, a global leader in DNA sequencing, the You’re Not Alone campaign and exhibition is being launched today during Baby Loss Awareness Week (October 9-15). It calls for more open discussion and aims to offer more support to parents whose children have passed away through life limiting genetic birth disorders known as Trisomy 13 or 18.
The project has been created by the Same but Different charity in conjunction with Soft UK which provides information and support to families affected by Trisomy 13 (Patau's Syndrome) and Trisomy 18 (Edwards' Syndrome). Sadly, survival rates are low for children born with trisomy 13 or 18. Whilst some children do survive longer, many babies do not survive beyond their first birthdays.
Photographer and Founder of the Same but Different charity, Ceridwen Hughes, has created the project to raise awareness about the importance of talking about grief through baby loss, whilst celebrating the lives of the babies, no matter how short their lives. In addition to striking imagery and impactful films, a dedicated piece of music has also been created as part of the project to represent the voices of the mothers by composer Michael Speed.
“Baby loss sometimes feels like a whispered secret,” said filmmaker Ceridwen. “No-one knows what to say to a grieving parent and often people are too afraid to even say the child’s name for fear of causing more upset and yet the parents I have spoken to yearn to remember and celebrate the lives of their child, no matter how short their life.
“This short film and exhibition funded by The National Lottery and Illumnia has been created to encourage dialogue and to remind people that no matter how lonely their journey, there are people who understand. Baby Loss Awareness Week provides anyone affected by pregnancy and baby loss a safe and supportive space to share their experiences and feel that they are not alone.”
Eleven families throughout the UK have taken part in the online exhibition, with parents Jodie Worsfold from Surrey and Claire Edge from Chester featuring in a short film called ‘You’re not alone’.
Capturing the emotive first-hand experiences of the families, the films explore their journey from diagnosis to the death of their babies/child. Those featured highlight the difficulties whilst ultimately celebrating their child’s lives and offering hope to parents experiencing the same journey.
One of the mothers featured is Jodie Worsfold from Surrey, whose daughter, Margot Vera Jean, passed away after being diagnosed with Trisomy 18.
“They suspected that Margot had something chromosomal and did some genetic tests,” says Jodie.
“When you see the list of typical features of a child with Trisomy 18, it would be easier to tick the ones that Margot didn’t have! We got the results after a 10 day wait. They sat us down and we just knew it was bad news. The senior consultant looked very sombre and the nurse sat next to me with the tissues. The doctor had a print-out from the internet, an A4 bit of paper, and he said: ‘I’m really sorry, it’s not good news. Your daughter has Trisomy 18, Edwards’ Syndrome’. He said it was a life-limiting condition and few children live beyond their first birthday.
“To have a diagnosis sooner than we did would have just given us opportunity to speak to other parents, to seek advice from professionals that, you know, that was their field of expertise so that then, when the time came, we were armed with all the right questions to ask”
David Knott, Interim CEO at The National Lottery Community Fund, said: “National Lottery funding is there to support everyone, including during times of acute challenge and personal strain. We are proud to have funded ‘You’re Not Alone’ – an initiative which shares messages of comfort and support on a topic that is not often talked about. We hope that these messages will help to connect bereaved parents to one another through a community that can make all the difference, when coping with grief and loss.”
The exhibition and short film can be seen at www.samebutdifferentcic.org.uk/yourenotalone
More than £30 million goes to good causes from The National Lottery across the country every week, making projects like these possible. To find out more about how The National Lottery supports good causes throughout the UK, visit www.lotterygoodcauses.org.uk