Harry and Meghan's wedding: The real falling out before the big day

·Royal Correspondent
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Harry and Meghan travel in an Ascot Landau carriage as they begin their procession through Windsor following their wedding at St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle on May 19, 2018 in Windsor, England. Prince Henry Charles Albert David of Wales marries Ms. Meghan Markle in a service at St George's Chapel inside the grounds of Windsor Castle. Among the guests were 2200 members of the public, the royal family and Ms. Markle's Mother Doria Ragland. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
Prince Harry and Meghan on their wedding day, before stepping down as senior members of the royal family two years later. (Getty Images)

Four years on from Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's wedding, a lot has changed for the couple.

With them now living in California with their children Archie, three, and Lilibet, 11 months, away from royal duties, we look back at what really happened before the Duke and Duchess of Sussex's big day.

It seems it was Harry, not Meghan, who had a royal falling out before the ceremony on 19 May 2018, according to a book widely reported to be their side of the story.

Finding Freedom: Harry and Meghan and the Making of a Modern Royal Family reports that Harry had an argument with the Queen’s right-hand woman Angela Kelly, and thought she was ignoring his requests for a final tiara fitting for Meghan.

The book explains Harry tagged along with Meghan when she went to Buckingham Palace to see what options she would be given for a tiara to borrow for her wedding day.

The Queen had offered five different options all of which were carefully handled by Kelly, who is the Queen’s personal assistant, advisor and curator of her jewellery and wardrobe. The decision was made not to bring a hair stylist to that first fitting as it was felt it would have “detracted from the intimacy of the personal moment”.

Instead, a full fitting with the stylist was to be arranged for another day.

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WINDSOR, UNITED KINGDOM - MAY 19:  Meghan Markle stands at the altar during her wedding in St George's Chapel at Windsor Castle on May 19, 2018 in Windsor, England. (Photo by Jonathan Brady - WPA Pool/Getty Images)
Radiant: Royal brides are often given the chance to borrow a tiara from the Queen. (Getty Images)

However, when it came to arranging that day, the book claims “no matter how many requests were sent by Kensington Palace, the Queen’s personal dresser didn’t respond”.

Not knowing when Kelly was free, “Harry was furious”, authors Carolyn Durand and Omid Scobie say.

Kelly is one of the few people allowed to actually touch the Queen and because of their close relationship, is on call almost all the time.

However despite knowing about palace protocol and the two women being in Windsor for Easter, Harry “didn’t believe that Angela was truly unavailable”.

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The book claims: “What followed between the prince and Angela was a heated exchange that was far from the typical restraint expected.

“According to a source, Harry had no problem confronting the issue head on.

“‘He was fed up,’ said the aide.”

According to Scobie and Durand, the prince had to go straight to his grandmother to arrange a tiara trial for Meghan.

It was later reported that Meghan had demanded a different tiara from the Queen for her wedding day.

But the book claims Meghan was dismayed by those reports, and told a friend “I love my tiara”.

Bishop Michael Bruce Curry gives a reading during the wedding ceremony of Britain's Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex and US actress Meghan Markle in St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle, in Windsor, on May 19, 2018. (Photo by Owen Humphreys / POOL / AFP)        (Photo credit should read OWEN HUMPHREYS/AFP via Getty Images)
The presence of Bishop Michael Bruce Curry at the service was actually suggested by Prince Charles. (Getty Images)

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The book also says that two of the features of the wedding ceremony were suggestions by Prince Charles.

According to the authors, the Kingdom Choir and the address by Bishop Michael Curry were ideas offered up by Charles, Harry’s father.

Charles revealed on Classic FM in 2020 that he suggested some of the pieces for the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge's wedding back in 2011, too.

It also offers another insight into the reported row between Meghan and Kate, with claims that Kate left a bridesmaid dress fitting in tears.

The Daily Telegraph reported that the duchess, not long having given birth to Louis, was left upset at the mid-May fitting, but a new source, who Scobie and Durand say has never spoken out before, said the reports were “puzzling”.

The source added: “There were no tears from anyone.”

CAPE TOWN, SOUTH AFRICA - SEPTEMBER 25: Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and their baby son Archie Mountbatten-Windsor meet Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Thandeka Tutu-Gxashe at the Desmond & Leah Tutu Legacy Foundation during their royal tour of South Africa on September 25, 2019 in Cape Town, South Africa. (Photo by Pool/Samir Hussein/WireImage)
Harry and Meghan share two children. (Photo by Pool/Samir Hussein/WireImage)

A spokesperson for William and Kate has previously said: “The Duke and Duchess of Sussex were not interviewed and did not contribute to ‘Finding Freedom’.

“This book is based on the authors’ own experiences as members of the royal press corps and their own independent reporting.”

Circling back to their life today, it has been announced Harry and Meghan won't make a Trooping the Colour balcony appearance, alongside the Queen and other key royals at the Platinum Jubilee in June - but they will attend the weekend's celebrations alongside their two children, the youngest still yet to meet her great-grandmother.

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