23 Best Sex Positions for Women, According to Women
Sex can be wonderfully glorious, romantic, passionate, and everything you’ve ever wanted…and it can still fail to bring you to orgasm if you aren’t in the right position. Trying out the best sex positions for women can help.
Every woman is different and what’s guaranteed to give you an orgasm may be completely different (and even the opposite) of what brings your best friend across the finish line. Fortunately, there is plenty that you can learn from the sex positions that work for other women. (And even more fortunately, exploring your body with a great partner and discovering what works for you is a great damn time.)
We asked 23 women to share the details of the best sex positions for women that always, always get them off. Who says women don’t help women?
The one where your partner uses their hands for extra overtime
“When my partner and I first got together, they would spend like an hour just running their hands up and down my back, eventually touching the sides of my breasts and buttocks. That slow, sensual feeling would really turn me on and make me orgasm within minutes once they reached my clit with their hands. We don’t get to do it as much now because we’re busy with full-time jobs and a young kid, but when we can manage it… It’s still my favorite.”
—Paulina, 34
The one where you're on my side for deep penetration
“The position that always makes me finish is when I'm on my side and my man enters me straight on. My leg on top rests on his chest for deep penetration. Let him focus on the tempo and use your hand to tease your clit—never fails!”
—Rose, 30
The one where you're sitting on their face
“The only position that works for me 100% of the time is sitting on my partner’s face. As a queer woman who doesn't enjoy penetration, there's something about the defying of gravity and the force of it.”
—Isabelle, 22
The one where you’re keeping it simple
“Missionary! It gets such a bad rap but it’s my favorite! My other would be from behind laying down so I can reach my clit from underneath.”
—Ariel, 24
The one where you can scissor at the end
“I love it when I can trib—or scissor—my partner. I usually like to save the trib for the grand finale when we are both so damn horny and wet. There is something about feeling my wet vulva rub against her wet vulva that blows up my fuse. And yes, the orgasms are often always explosive! One just has to make sure that the positioning is right with both clits nearly in contact so they stimulate each other. Also, one person has to move against the other person otherwise, you will lose rhythm and might even lose a bit of the sensation if both of you start moving your bodies.”
—Joyline, 34
The one where you're on top and can control the movement
“My go-to get off position is me on top, facing my partner. It turns me on to be able to control the pace and depth. Plus, I like that he’s watching me—and, as a bonus, his hands are free to roam. I can also squirt most easily in this position—gravity helps! If we’re ever in a hurry or he wants to warm me up, this is always our go-to.”
—Melinda, 40
The one where you’re on top but he’s sitting up
“Cowgirl! It’s an especially good angle also good for height discrepancies. Also, I really love what is apparently called a face-off (woman on top, man sitting up) because the kissing and intimacy is really nice.”
—Violet, 21
The one where you do doggie style lying down
“Me lying flat on my stomach while my partner penetrates me from on top/behind. Penetrative sex is frequently painful for me but, when I'm on my stomach, my body is able to completely relax (no need to hold my legs up!) and I can have pain-free sex. Before the painful sex started, I preferred missionary almost 100% of the time—there’s nothing like holding each other close and having frontal access to each others' bodies. But for now, I'll listen to my body and go with what's most comfortable!”
—Annie, 30
The one where you let them take control
“The first time I was with my wife, she asked me how I like to be touched. I said, ‘You get on top of me, and put two or three fingers inside me.’ I love the variety in lesbian sex, and this is by far my favorite move. She has so much control, and I can move against her. It gets me every time!” —Lisa, 38
The one where you're on top and laying down
“I always orgasm on top—laying down flat on top of a guy.” —Jennifer, 47
The one where your legs are in the air
“Modified missionary—with my ankles resting on my partner’s shoulders—with a vibrator against my clitoris does it for me every single time!”
—Vee, 27
The one that goes extra deep
“Missionary with a full length pillow placed under me. It makes the position easier on the hips and penetration feels a lot better because it subtly changes the angle.” —Jocellyn, 28
The one where you’re using a pillow
“I love the position that’s called ‘doggy pillow’ where you’re lying on your stomach with a pillow under your belly/hips. It has the advantage of doggy style-like penetration (which I love because it hits my G-spot just right) but is much easier on my hips and elbows since I don’t quite have to brace myself as harshly. I had shoulder surgery about a year ago, which left me feeling like I couldn’t enjoy my favorite position (doggy style) but now I just do it with this slight adjustment and oh YES.” —Isabel, 33
The one that’s hands-free
“On top works best as I get older—it allows for a lot of different types of orgasm intensity. Plus, your hands are free to play and stimulate more.”
—KC, 45
The one where you spoon
“My boyfriend spooning me while I play with my clit seems to work best for achieving climax. Sometimes, he plays with my clit in this position, instead. Either way, orgasmic! I’m unable to have an orgasm via my g-spot, like many women. I require clitoral stimulation. For missionary, my lover grinds against me, resulting in his pelvic region rubbing against my clitoris. I can’t choose between these two! Both are my favorites.”
—Megan, 29
The one where you have all of the control
“To be honest, I prefer being the aggressor. I need to feel safe with a guy. If he is the aggressor and I haven’t know him for very long, my whole body can have a PTSD-like high anxiety feeling (which ruins any physical attraction that I might’ve initially had). If I’m the one who starts things (a look, a smile, moving in closer to him), then I can feel fiery passion. If he goes down on me first, that is the best. Then I’m ready for him to enter me regular ol’ missionary style but at some point before he orgasms, I like to get on top. That way, I can have two or three great orgasms. Snuggling afterwards is always awesome.” —Dana, 58
The one where he’s sitting on the bed and you’re in his lap
“When my partner sits on the edge of the bed and I sit on his lap—apparently it's called ‘face-off.’ I wrap my legs around his back for the best angle for us (yes, it takes a second to get into position). I love it because he can get deep and I get that full stroke feeling as every inch of him enters me. Plus we have easy access to my clit and breasts for bonus stimulation. And it feels so intimate looking right at each other.” —Leah, 27
The one where you can touch yourself
“With the man on his knees, upright, and me lying down on my back with my finger on my clit. The fingering part is very, very important to this particular orgasm. It gets deep like this, and with room to maneuver the fingers, it's such a fail-safe.” —Su-Jit, 35
The one with double penetration
“Anal stimulation with a combination of clitoral stimulation and/or vaginal penetration (double penetration!). With a male partner: laying on my back hips propped up by pillows, anal penetration and my vibrator on my clitoris does it every time. With a female partner: oral stimulation and anal stimulation with fingers. With multiple partners: well, everything! Toys and props are fun—don’t be afraid to think outside of the box.” —Brandie, 44
The one where you use a vibrator
“My partner is very focused on my pleasure. Oral, anal, vaginal, penetrative sex, light bondage, scissoring, really I get it all! I’m very lucky. It’s the best sex I’ve had in my life, and I’ve had sex on every continent except Antarctica. Still, my strongest and most reliable orgasm comes from my partner using a vibrator on me.” —Cath, 37
The one on the couch
“Nothing is necessarily going to work ALL the time for me but my most reliable standby is the guy sitting on the couch (or just anywhere that can support his back) with me on top facing him. Total clitoral control!” —Katie, 30
The one with a twist
“Kneeling down with your head down and your bum in the air, with the guy behind. Or on the side, with the guy behind, with your outside leg flung over his so he can stimulate you with his hand at the front at the same time.” —Crystal, 34
The one that gets to the point
“Where his mouth is on my clitoris.” —Eve, 52
Originally Appeared on Glamour
